Just Writing Stuff Down

I think solo dates are one of the most underrated ways of getting to know oneself. People will tell you to meditate. They’ll tell you to do one of those weird detoxes. They’ll tell you to go to an ashram, stay with yourself, be with yourself, disconnect from everything and “find yourself.” And I’m sure you find something when you do that. You find a spiritual part of yourself, maybe an emotional part, maybe you confront things you’ve been avoiding. But I don’t think that necessarily tells you what kind of person you are. I think you understand yourself in a completely different way when you put yourself in the middle of ordinary life and realise you don’t need somebody else there to experience it. Go to a restaurant.  Ask for a table for one. Go to a café and sit there with a book. Go shopping. Go for dessert. Go to a movie. Just go somewhere because you wanted to go. I think everybody should do it. Not because you’re single. Not because you don’t have friends. Not beca...

I’m actually very good at being alone. I say that because I think people have this very strange idea that being alone automatically means being lonely. It doesn’t. I can take myself out for dinner. I can sit at a restaurant by myself, eat my food, look around, listen to music, judge people’s orders in my head and have a perfectly nice evening. I can watch a movie alone. I can go to a show alone. I can go for Garba alone and dance alone because with or without people I dance till i drop. I can make my own plans, go somewhere, figure things out and come back home without feeling like I have been abandoned by society. And I genuinely like doing it. I’m self-sufficient. I like knowing that if I want to do something, I can just do it. I don’t have to sit around waiting for someone to be free. If everyone has plans, fine. I’ll go. If nobody wants to watch the movie, I’ll watch it. If nobody wants to go out, I’ll still go out. I have absolutely no interest in putting my life on hold becaus...